It’s Not Me It’s You!

I love thinking about that title, would you ever say that to someone…hehehe. The title really is about how I have been feeling lately towards the beloved ones that live so far away from me, and the people I call family that do not share my genes.

Do you ever get in a funk, feel weird or just off. Sure you check to see if you have had a coffee yet (I know you my friends:), but alas the feeling still remains. How do you cope? What are your instincts? Is something wrong with you, your life, finances, relationships, job etc. Are you depressed? Do you feel satisfied?

I have been feeling alot of those feelings lately and chalked them up to A.being a girl and B.being a new mom. Sure some of these feelings and emotions can be blamed on my hormones, but I have felt this way for a while. And then this happened – in one day 4 of my beloved friends called me sharing the same feelings. The same big life questions and struggling with similar fears and anxiety.

This got me thinking, hey maybe it is not just me that feels this way, and even more so maybe I am feeling this way because I am connected to You! Maybe we pick up on the “stuff” of our dearest and closest, maybe we feel their pain in some spiritual, supernatural way. Maybe we are meant to EMPATHIZE!!! Maybe we are meant to journey this life together and not apart.

I am wondering how you have felt lately? And do you have someone you trust, who loves you and who you are, someone you can talk to, someone who can be your sidekick?

Comments please!!

K

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6 Responses to “It’s Not Me It’s You!”

  1. Lisa Says:

    April 16th, 2010 at 3:32 pm

    Hey Karla,

    yep, I’ve felt that weird fear/anxiety, the world spinning around me thing lately too.

    And yes, I think sometimes we do pick up on stuff that those we love share – I’ve experienced it many times.

    And yes, I have a few very dear friends who I can share this stuff with.

    Lisa

  2. kristy Says:

    April 16th, 2010 at 5:04 pm

    I definitely get into bouts of this… as do my friends. Right now I am pretty much out of it (for now!) but a few dear friends are in the midst of it. And I love that I can tell them to come over…that they aren’t a burden on me and that I can handle their moods and that I understand because I’ve been there many times. I love that they can be in a funk and know that they can text or call me to pray or talk or hang out. Especially because when we’re feeling like that sometimes the last thing we’re motivated to do is talk to someone.

    I also feel that there is a spirit of depression over “us”… “us” as a country?? I don’t know how big it is. But I know more people who are affected by some level of depression than not. And true friendship is what I’ve seen work wonders on it.

  3. Catherine Says:

    April 16th, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    Karla, I am not quite sure how to reply to your blog. Overall I am not depressed or unhappy with life but I do understand the frustrations brought on by “family” who are not from the same genes. It is hard sometimes when you open your heart and home to “family” who take advantage of the opening and then turn on you to voice there frustrations with their own blood. What I have found works for me is to isolate the situation and to distance myself from it. I am an optimist and while I have never turned my back on someone in need, I don’t need to feel that I am anyone’s whipping post. Fortunately, I have a wonderful relationship with my husband and we see day to day ups and downs together. I have a good life and though not always easy it is good to share it with someone special who cares as much about me and I do him. Everything else is gravy and if someone throws vinegar in the mix instead of brooding on it, I remove it and go on to appreciate what is good about my life and be grateful for all the blessings I do have. God’s will not mine be done and I will not be pulled into a battle for the sake of battle by anyone. Postpartum blues can make a person miserable so please educate yourself on it and know that prayers and best wishes are with you and Gary- even from a distance. Our relationship with you both is just that – our relationship with you both, nothing or no one else comes into that once contact was established and I believe each relationship is judged on it’s own merit.That’s my part on being part of your family that is not from the same genes.

  4. devin Says:

    April 17th, 2010 at 2:00 pm

    karla,

    every time i hear the sad words “two pots of coffee; and still i feel alone” in my car it breaks my heart. i immediately turn the volume up, blare and thrash out my vocal chords for those lines and then resume driving. i feel pathetic, yet embraced throwing my life’s toils out to others i hardly know, but to someone who still cares. i don’t know if i know how to love anymore. and because of that i don’t know if i will ever be happy again, i change things in my life, i try knew things, i travel, i’m learning learning learning (keys and accordian at the same time!) and everytime i stop. take a breath. i still feel desperatley alone. i have tried to love so many times, and end up with a peice of my heart taken away that i know i will never get back and i don’t know if i have much left in me. i’ve attempted to look at other’s lives who have true genuine happiness, but i’m always further discouraged by those whose lives are in ruins. after truman capote finish his memoriable true crime “in cold blood”, telling the horrific events of a murdered family, he never finished another book and drank himself to death. i’m a forever worried that i am destined for this, whether fame or no fame, events in our lives are catistrophic. maybe my real question in all of this is why do we always feel that the ones we love aren’t good enough, that we will just subside with them always hoping that one day they will earn up to themselves. and after we realize we do this we even further look down on ourselves because are less off than they are.

    for those of us who need someone..

    d

  5. Karla Adolphe Says:

    April 20th, 2010 at 8:48 pm

    Yeah Devin, way to go and share from the depths of your beautiful heart!! Thank you for this comment, it is amazing, you are a great writer and I love the depth of your heart’s cry. To love and be loved, is there anything else we all desire! I pray you receive and enjoy an abundance of love in this life and the courage to risk for it! Way to go.

    K

  6. Karla Adolphe Says:

    April 20th, 2010 at 8:50 pm

    thanks Cat! Great thoughts and ideas on family! How do we carefully risk and guard our hearts in Family? Hmmm great questions, maybe a response for this weeks blog!
    K

  7. Karla Adolphe Says:

    April 20th, 2010 at 8:53 pm

    Now there is a great thought Kristy, true friendship is a cure for some level of depression. Can’t wait to be in your lovely house and to meet your great friends!

    K

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